This connection is sometimes sparked by communicating with a tenderness in our eyes or offering a facial expression full of compassion. Other times, this connection between moms is shared through spoken words with an, “I understand.” Or, “It’s okay, I’m a mom too and I know all about rough days with the little ones.”
In these beautifully sacred moments moms are relating to one another. We’re also filling an essential need that we all have – a need to belong and be loved.
Just to clarify, belonging has nothing to do with being popular or part of the in crowd. Belonging comes from a place of wholehearted acceptance. It validates, heals, and empowers.
Belonging also expresses the message that “we’re all in this together.”
Loss of Connection
However, sometimes we can find ourselves disconnected, which feels a lot like being cut off. We feel alone and separate from others.
Perhaps you’ve experienced disconnection when you’ve been so caught up in the stress of carrying out your day that you feel disconnected and closed off? Alone with your challenges.
Or maybe you’re struggling through postpartum depression without any support from loved ones? You feel as though you’re “going it alone.”
Or are you reluctant to reach out for connection because it means admitting defeat or failure in a culture that celebrates self-sufficiency? This also reflects disconnection.
Seeking the Light
Similar to when we experience a power outage in our homes, we long to come out of the darkness and be re-connected again with light. We also long to bask in the glow of love when we’re in a disconnected place.
So, basically when we experience a connection, whether in the form of a support group, the company of a dear friend or loved one, or a counselor, we are being embraced, loved, and accepted. This is belonging my friends.
At the heart of belonging is love, which has nothing to do with fitting in or gaining approval.
The next time you share a random connection with a fellow mom at the grocery store, I encourage you to pause and truly honor the gift of the interaction. It just may be what your own heart is longing for.
I’d love to hear in the comments about ways you’re experiencing connections with other moms.